By Jessica Hartwig, Adoption Recruitment Specialist
In my personal experience with ‘foster to adopt’ adoption, we did not have the opportunity to meet our daughter’s birth mother. She walked out of the hospital after she gave birth. We took our baby home at six days old and had faith that she would ultimately be our adoptive daughter. Very little information is known about our daughter’s birth parents. The identifying contact information that her birth mother completed within the hospital was false. Birth father is unknown. The only birth parent information that my husband and I have to share with our daughter is the fragmented account that one social worker who had met her told us within days of our placement.
This experience is common among public agency adoptions. However, a few public agency adoptive parents and many parents who adopt through a private agency do get the privilege of meeting a birth family member. During your adoption journey, should you have the opportunity to meet a birth mother or birth family member, I would suggest that you be prepared to ask the questions that you and your adopted child may need to know now and/or want to know in the future. Continue reading